Disconnected

You ever felt disconnected from something or someone? I’m sure you answered yes; well my answer is also yes! When my husband’s son (now our son) first came to us, I didn’t feel a connection with him. I guess I was in shock, I couldn’t grasp on to this new life we now had. I was use to just the two us hanging out, going as we please, working any hours plus overtime, sleeping and just being a young couple with little to no responsibilities. It was kind of like someone forced you to get married and you wasn’t in love. Our lives had changed so fast and so dramatically. Our lives literally changed overnight.

Being in a relationship/marriage with a person who has a child is a huge struggle; you have to be mentally, physically and emotionally strong. But, if you truly love the person, you will stick with them. Prayer got me through these struggles. If you don’t pray and ask God to be your strength, you will never survive being in a blended family. As the years went on and our son got older, he and I have developed a strong relationship. We have a strong mother son relationship that no one wouldn’t be able to tell the difference if he’s mines or not.

If you’re in a blended family and you have a disconnection with your step child/children, my advice to you is to pray to God, ask him to guide you and to open up your heart to accept this child/children as your own and also pray for strength. Ask God to open up the child/children heart to accept you and to open up the lines of communication.

Have you experienced this? Tell me some of the experiences you’ve had or you’re having! Please feel free to comment, ask questions, make suggestions, etc. Thanks for reading!